I argued with you all last night in my head. Tried to picture what you would say how it would sound. Funny thing about arguing with someone in your head, things always come out so perfectly. We always know just what to say.
Conversations are either as healthy as we want them to be or as unhealthy, it all depends on your perspective. But maybe there’s one thing we count on when we argue in our heads. We assume both people are listening equally.
In my head all of our arguments were perfect. In my head we fought in the healthiest possible way. Listening, absorbing. In my head we didn’t read so many things into tiny gestures, we just sat with what the other one was saying. We accepted it and tried to understand. We came up with strategies and solutions that would make both of us happy.
It’s such a shame it all remains just in my head.